No matter how sweet you were with your first girlfriend, many years have passed and you may have new feelings for each other. Even if you are still single, the previous feelings and problems are still between you... so many people There are actually very contradictory feelings about first love. On the one hand, I miss it, but on the other hand, I am afraid of facing it. So what if my first girlfriend asks me to meet? To go or not to go? How can I refuse if I don’t go? What should you pay attention to if you meet?
1. It is better to miss each other than to meet each other
In fact, some feelings are really only suitable to be buried deep in the heart, such as the first girlfriend. Maybe my first girlfriend would be very hesitant when she asked me to meet: I really wanted to go, but I didn’t know why the meeting was necessary. I want to see how she is doing, but I am afraid that we will no longer be the same as before. Maybe you haven't met each other before, but you can see from her circle of friends that she travels all over the world, living the life you once imagined together, while you are limited to the happiness of the world and live a dull life. This gap will also make you afraid to meet her.
：We are each other's first love. We have known each other for 11 years. We have been separated for 5 years and have not seen each other for 5 years. Meet.
Although we broke up, every year on our birthdays, we would prepare a gift for each other with great care. There is no reason or special intention. It may just be a habit or a sentiment.
On her birthday last year, I was in the country and he was in Europe. I wrote a note with a hammer. A few words seemed to be enough. I wonder what she looks like now, whether she is still as beautiful and mature as in the photos.
This year, we are in the same city.
She said, I have returned to China. Let’s meet up if we have time. If you have time and convenience, there will be a thoughtful tone and careful invitation between the lines.
But we never said when we would meet.
Maybe one day we will meet suddenly, because compared to the world, a city is too small.
Maybe this time we will still say we will get together next time, because there is always an expectation between us for the next time.
2. Stay rational when meeting
The reason why many people hesitate when their first love girlfriend asks him to meet is that one reason is that meeting him is not as good as missing him, and the other reason may be that he is afraid of losing his mind. , do things that make you regret, especially for boys who have girlfriends. If you can't forget your first girlfriend, you are actually being irresponsible to your current girlfriend. So, if you really want to meet your first girlfriend, you must stay sensible.
@明明白的小: Two years after I broke up with my first girlfriend, she asked me to have a meal at the restaurant where we first met. Rice, that was nearly two days apart between usYear of meeting.
I was single when we met (it’s not that I haven’t looked for him yet, but I’ve never met the right person), and she had a boyfriend we’d been dating for more than a year. When we met, the content of our chat was actually a bit dry and boring, consisting of nothing more than polite words.
When we were about to separate at the end, I turned around and wanted to leave. She suddenly grabbed me and said to me, I have been separated from you for so long, and I have never met anyone who is as kind and understanding to me as you are. My person... She hesitated to speak and just looked at me.
At that time, I had an inexplicable feeling of regret. We had known each other for nine years and been in love for four years. We had spent the most youthful time together. It can be said that we grew up together. I don't know if she wants to look back, but the remaining reason tells me that she can't stay.
First of all, our identities are different. I am still a carefree single, but she already has a stable boyfriend. In the long time since we separated, I have actually thought clearly. , my love with her is actually not that deep. High school is too repressive. Our existence may be a little bit of support for each other under pressure. After escaping the repression of high school, in college, we have more leisure time, and we feel more and more Our previous love was a bit childish. In fact, the two of us had no similar values ??or interests at all. She was all-round and easy-going, while I was content in my own small circle. As time went by, there would naturally be many conflicts.
However, these fundamental contradictions have never been resolved. I am glad that I have not looked back.
Summary: My first love girlfriend asked me to meet, even if I go to meet, it doesn’t really matter, as long as you can stay rational and treat yourself and others Responsible, meeting and reminiscing about old times is really nothing.
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