Many people say that men cheat for stimulation. This is undeniable, but why do women cheat? "The real motivation behind starting and maintaining an intimate relationship is actually need." When a person is in a relationship When she finds emotional needs, she will want to satisfy them through the outside world.
1. What is love?
Why do we fall in love with someone?
In fact, the essence of falling in love with someone is to find someone who is like our parents to satisfy our needs.
The two main needs of children are a sense of belonging and confirmation of their own importance.
These two needs come from the same source, which is the common need of "loving and being loved" among human beings.
If our needs are not met in childhood, a lack will form in our hearts, and your attitude towards the external world will also have a great impact on us.
When we grow up, you will look for this childish need in your partner. When you meet someone who can satisfy your childhood desires, you will like her. Therefore, the lover you are looking for is the candidate who meets your needs.
2. Cheating is just a desire for approval from others
Why do you still like others when you clearly have a partner?< /p>
Sometimes cheating doesn’t mean that she doesn’t love you anymore, it may just mean that she loves herself more now.
Everyone likes to be liked and admired by others.
Everyone likes to be cherished and admired by others.
Those who have affairs do not fall in love with a certain person, but in love with a beautiful feeling. An affair allows a person to become the beautiful and handsome self he once was.
Therefore, the "beautiful self" recognized by others is the object of their true obsession.
In "Thirty Only", Xu Huanshan cheats on the young and beautiful intern Lin Youyou.
Do you want to say that he likes Lin Youyou? Yes, but what he likes is the feeling of being admired and paid attention to by Lin Youyou, not just that person.
So later, when Gu Jia divorced him, he was unwilling and begged to forgive him.
Why did he cheat on his wife even though he obviously loved her?
Because that intern brought him back to the feeling of youth.
She would take Xu Huanshan to the stadium to play football, and would look at Xu Huanshan with admiration in her eyes.
However, the vast majority of people who cheat will regret it, because temporary excitement can never replace true love.
An affair is like a firework show. The moment when the other person blooms is beautiful, but in the end it cannot be kept.
In the vast sea of ????people, it is a very lucky thing to meet each other, and being together is an adventure in life. So, cherish the person who can cry and laugh with you.
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