I found that many of my friends are complaining, why can’t they always meet a loved one? Seeing the sweetness of others makes your heart sour than eating lemons... In fact, the right person will definitely come to you, but it’s just that It's just a matter of early or late time. So in the process of waiting, we might as well learn to love ourselves first, because to love others we must first learn to love ourselves, so that the relationship can last long.
1. Know yourself
Look at yourself objectively and have a clear understanding of yourself. Clearly know your abilities, strengths, strengths and weaknesses. You can list each of your characteristics and the corresponding events to analyze yourself, such as characteristics:
Corresponding events for strong empathy: seeing others cry when watching movies and TV series , I immediately felt the sadness of others and started crying.
2. Accept yourself
Everyone has their own "advantages" and "disadvantages", or we should call these things "characteristics", advantages and disadvantages are just Our value judgments.
Characteristics that we are not satisfied with:
If we can change it, we will change it (for example, if we are not good at Mandarin, practice Mandarin);
If we cannot change it , we accept these characteristics of ourselves (such as short height), or reduce the impact of these characteristics on us by changing the environment (for example, if we don’t like to communicate too much with others, then don’t choose a sales job. A programmer may be more suitable for you. ).
3. Stop trying to please others and wronging yourself
You need to pay close attention to your inner feelings instead of always worrying about other people’s opinions and attitudes and blindly cater to and please others. . You need to learn to refuse other people's unreasonable requests. After you refuse once, you will find that it is not a big deal at all.
4. Don’t dwell on the past
The past has passed and will no longer cause harm to you. , it will no longer affect you. Look forward to a better life in the future, live your present life well, and don't use what happened in the past as an excuse for you to stagnate.
5. Get rid of people and environments that make you uncomfortable
If a person or environment (such as 996 work makes you physically and mentally exhausted) makes you feel painful, then act decisively Leave people or situations that make you uncomfortable. Don’t worry too much about sunk costs, don’t worry too much about finding a new job. Leave them and you will rediscover the beauty of the world.
6. Take care of yourself
Take care of your own food, clothing and daily life. Eat on time every day, drink more hot water, stay up late as little as possible, and clean the room once a week. When your life becomes regular and healthy, your whole person will be more energetic. wellExperience the fireworks in the world, the delicious food, the warm sunshine in spring, the evening breeze in summer, the fallen leaves in autumn, and the snow in winter. These are the wonderful world~
7. Don’t blame yourself h2>
No one in this world is always right, and no one can always satisfy others. Don't beat yourself up when you do something wrong or fail to satisfy others. All you have to do is review it carefully and try to do better next time.
A person who truly loves himself will be confident and happy even if he has many shortcomings. And a person who doesn't love himself is full of harshness and criticism of himself.
There are some people in this world who did not receive enough love when they were young, so they did not learn to love themselves. If you don’t know how to love yourself, I hope this guide can help you.
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