In today’s society, both men and women are financially independent, and the AA system seems to have become the standard that many people respect. If both parties are just ordinary friends going out to eat or travel, the AA system is indeed a good choice.
But if both parties have already entered the marriage hall, then it is not appropriate for both parties to implement the aa system of spending money. To be serious, what separates the AA system is not money, but marriage. It is difficult for such a marriage to last long.
Because, AA marriage does not just share the financial expenses equally, it separates the connection between two people. There is no "we" in this kind of marriage, only "you" and "me" .
Maybe you loved him and he loved you when you got married, but in the future you will be you and he will be him.
In any matter, the two of you will be "I solve the part that I am responsible for, and you solve the part that you are responsible for."
Nowadays, many people with excellent personal conditions and strong abilities begin to think that the AA marriage model is very good, and they are in a good relationship. Zhong Neng remains independent and can make decisions for himself. Even if there are problems in the relationship, he still has the initiative.
But people who hold this idea often ignore one thing, that is, the reason why people need partners is mainly to support each other emotionally and spiritually.
The couple has a common economic plan and jointly participates in the distribution of income and expenditure, which means that they are in the same boat through thick and thin. Emotionally, the feeling given to both parties is that "we are partners in life and we are a community of destiny", not just It's "you" and "I" who work independently.
In a life where everything is going smoothly, an AA marriage may not have obvious disadvantages.
However, it will subtly dilute the relationship between husband and wife and prevent the development of a close relationship between husband and wife. Once there is any crisis or difficulty in the family, the boat of marriage will capsize.
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