Not knowing how to chat with girls is a headache for many boys, especially when they are chasing girls. Because they have to contact them every day, they often run out of topics to talk about, and then they end up chatting to death. So what should you talk about every day if you are chasing a girl, so that you won’t chat to death?
In fact, if you are chasing a girl, At this time, it doesn’t matter what we talk about every day. The important thing is to learn to expand your topics.
For people who can chat, even if there is only one topic, this person can continue to expand the topic and talk about more and more things in common; but if you don’t know how to chat, no matter how good you are, The topic will also end with you. Therefore, it is more important to grasp how to expand topics in chat than to grasp how to choose topics in chat. " The hot pot you just posted on Moments looks delicious, where is it?"
"At XXXX"
"Okay, thank you"
Just...gone. Then you were embarrassed, you didn't know what to say, and you started to turn on your phone to ask questions: What topics should you talk about when you are chasing a girl now.
In fact, the topic of yours can be discussed, don’t you know?
If you want to continue talking about a topic and have a good conversation, the most important things are two points: 1. Learn to expand the coverage of your topic 2. Learn to grasp the points in the other party's topic that can be used to expand the topic.
We have two ways of thinking when chatting, one is [expansion type] and the other is [contraction type]. The questions and answers above are the [contraction type] chatting method. This kind of chatting This way, you don’t have to look for any topic, any topic can make you chat to death.
So the truly correct way of chatting when chasing girls should be like this:
"Your circle of friends The hot pot I just posted looks delicious. I especially like to eat Chongqing hot pot. I finally have time to spend the weekend this week and I plan to eat it. Where can it be?"
——Topic 1: The location of the hot pot
——Topic 2: Your hobby for food
——Topic 3: What have you done to be so busy this week that you have time to spend the weekend
< p> You see, many times you end up chatting with others about a topic. It’s really not because of the wrong topic, but because of the way you start the topic - when others reply to you, they always choose the one that is easiest for them to answer. As for the topic answer, if the topic you give is very limited, then it is really normal to chat to death.Similarly, when others reply to you on a topic,You should also try your best to expand the information that can be expanded in the other party's topic:
"Is this place very close to that XX shopping mall? There is a milk tea on the third floor of that shopping mall that is particularly delicious... ."
"Hey, where did you go? I remember that the area you live in is far away from that store."
"Is it a feeling that there will be a lot of people queuing up for this kind of store? Ah, is the queuing situation serious?"
...Look, how many topics can be expanded from a simple topic of one position through this method of mining information?
So, when you think about what to talk about every day when you are chasing a girl so that you don’t chat to death, your thinking is already wrong. In your opinion, there must be a topic that is particularly broad and can be We chatted non-stop, but actually if you think back to our past chats, which one of them could have ended with the same topic?
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Have you suddenly discovered that those topics that can be talked about for a long time are all one topic nested within another?
Congratulations to you young man: when you can realize this At that time, you will be completely enlightened - you will no longer be obsessed with any specific topic, but make good use of every topic you can use, and on this basis, you will continue to try to expand the topic and explore the other party's replies. Valuable information.
A well-functioning chat should be like this: you understand the thoughts and opinions this person may have through the person’s circle of friends or other social software, and then based on this , grab a topic that the other person may be interested in and start your chat.
No matter what topic you use to start, it doesn’t matter, because your opening must be nested in other topics to facilitate your expansion. All the questions you throw out are after giving Your topic sets the stage and makes a statement, which is more conducive to your performance and the continuation of your chat.
Don’t worry about the “topics that are suitable for pursuing girls now”, just take a look at the hotly searched topics on Weibo. Have they changed over the years? It’s nothing more than family gossip, celebrity gossip, weather and zodiac signs... ....The topics are limited, and there is no particularly good topic that can be discussed in one go.
Therefore, what you chat with a girl about every day is not the key. How to expand the topic and how to dig out new points from the girl’s replies is the most important thing. Do you understand?
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