I have a good conversation with a girl on a daily basis, and every time I look for her, she never responds. But if I don’t look for her, she will never look for me. What should I do in this situation?
Actually, there are two reasons why girls never take the initiative to chat with you but always reply:
The first is that they don’t like you at all, so replying to you is just polite. .
Anyway, you didn’t explicitly say that you like her, so wouldn’t it be a little weird if she said, “Don’t look for me anymore, we are not suitable”?
So even if you don’t want to , she will still occasionally reply to you once or twice a day, but she will not take the initiative to start a new topic.
The second type is that girls also have a crush on you, but they are more reserved.
Most girls are more conservative. If they feel that if they are too proactive, boys will get it easily, and they will definitely not cherish it.
In fact, if girls never take the initiative to chat with you but always reply to this kind of question, it is usually at the stage of first acquaintance between the two of them when they are not very familiar with each other. Therefore, if we want to change this situation, we must Improve progress from 3 aspects.
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1. Improve your own charm
In a relationship, if you have no reason to give, the other person will gradually You will get used to it, and may even feel disgusted because you are too unchallenging.
So, you have to give good things slowly, and occasionally you still have to stimulate the other person's sense of need.
For example, if she recommends a TV series to you, if you don’t like watching it, don’t force yourself to watch it to cater to her. You can tell her directly: “I don’t follow TV series very much, but I prefer watching movies. ”
Do you feel that you have your own principles and will not be led by others? This image suddenly becomes taller, right?
Again For example, don't stick to her all day long, clean up yourself, participate in more social activities with other friends, and make new friends.
Even if you are alone, you can still do something of your own, enjoy your alone time, and enrich your spiritual world.
Show her from time to time that we are also attractive and that other girls like us.
At this time, if you show your kindness to her again, if the girl is interested in you, she will naturally accept your kindness and slowly and actively approach you!
2. Get along as friends
Many boys chase girls, want to hold her hand while crossing the road, keep picking up food for others when eating, and are always ready to take off their clothes and put them on others when it's cold...
It’s really good, but it’s just not used at the right time.
Relationships increase layer by layer. You can’t go straight to the finish line as soon as you start.
You have expressed your good feelings, but have you ever thought about how the girl feels? Will it be a lot of pressure?
If you do too much, you will make many mistakes. Why don’t we start with friends?
Think about how you usually make friends?
Take chatting as an example, if you are a friend, you must be here and there. Go instead of just trying to cater to her.
Once you are timid and you start to exude a feeling of unconfidence, how can you attract people?
Just treat her as a friend, and you don’t need to think so much. He is the professional one, and he will naturally shine with enthusiasm and confidence when he speaks these things.
If she likes you, why would she be annoyed? It’s not too late to appreciate you!
3 .Provide emotional value
Boys’ habitual thinking is to solve problems as soon as they happen, without thinking about the purpose of others telling you this.
Why didn’t she reply to me while we were chatting?
What do you think? It’s not because there is no difference between chatting with you and chatting with Siri. Maybe Siri can still More humorous than you.
If you want to have a happy conversation, the emotion is more important than the problem itself.
Just like you say you are sad and want to drink, and I tell you, "Drinking is harmful to the body, and drinking to relieve your sorrows will make you even more miserable. If you drink too much and no one takes care of you, how uncomfortable it will be." You Do you want to seal my mouth?
Because your most fundamental need is not to drink, but to relieve your uncomfortable emotions.
So if I say: "What's wrong? Are you unhappy? Tell me about it first."
Then you tell me, and I will comfort you. , you feel a lot more relaxed, and maybe you don’t want to drink anymore.
This is especially true when chatting with girls. They also know that no one can help solve some things, and they can tell you just so that you can comfort them.
For example:
A girl tells you: "I feel a little uncomfortable and my head feels dizzy. ”
The average boy’s answer is: “Do you have a cold? Do you want to go to the hospital? Let me buy you some medicine.”
Such a reply is unless you have a good relationship. To a certain extent, otherwise people will not trust you at all and will think you are nagging.
To put it bluntly, you have overstepped the limit, and the relationship has not reached that level yet.
But if you can comfort her emotions, maybe she will be willing to chat with you for a while.
You can reply: "What's wrong? Are you too tired from work recently?"
She will feel that you really care about her feelings. Girls are all emotional creatures.
The key is that in this way, won’t the chat topics diverge again?
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