The impulse to love inspired by online dating relies on your own imagination. Real love is the process of how we feel about a real person. Therefore, the feelings that come out of chatting are not actually likes.
I wonder if any of you who have had online dating experience have such a feeling?
I always feel If the other person is slightly indifferent, we will immediately become sensitive, suspicious, and at a loss what to do. This is because our brains will involuntarily rationalize all the information we receive.
This also means that what makes us feel excited is not the real person of the other person, but the product of secondary processing of imagination.
Moreover, at most only 30% of the person we know through chatting is real, and the rest, whether it is appearance, personality, or character, is actually our subjective creation of "what we want to be." Let the other person become like that."
Maybe the person across the screen sent a photo in a suit and ties, so you are more willing to believe that "he is a young, promising and successful person", but this may not be the case;
Maybe the person you are chatting with cares about you every day and takes care of you, so you are more willing to believe that "he is a gentle, delicate and warm man", but the fact may be that this person has a bad temper;
Maybe the person you fell in love with online took a photo of an exquisite breakfast, so you are more willing to believe that "he is a person who loves life", but the fact may be that he is too lazy to even wash his clothes... ...
What is the most correct posture for online dating?
It is two people chatting with each other. They have a general understanding of each other, and at least it proves that "each other can talk about it." After chatting for about 28 days, the two sides decide on a time to meet offline as soon as possible to test out "whether the two of them have anything to do with each other." The possibility of developing long-lasting relationships.”
After meeting each other, if both parties feel good about each other, then they can definitely continue to advance the relationship. On the contrary, if one or both parties cannot accept the relationship, then they can stop the loss in time and there is no need to waste each other's feelings and time.
Because the human emotional metabolism cycle is 28 days, once this time limit is exceeded and there is a lack of authentic communication to consolidate the relationship, it will be difficult for you to maintain a highly excited and ambiguous state.
After that, naturally, the more we chatted, the less we had anything to say. The more we got along online, the more boring we felt. Finally, we broke up while chatting.
Most of the likes generated by chatting are short-lived and fragile, and generally do not last long. It is even said that as long as two people lose contact for more than three days, your original impulse towards that person will disappear immediately. Will swingNothing.
Therefore, no matter you are a man or a woman, don’t put your fate on an illusory online dating. The return rate is too low and the risk is too high.
Develop more worlds outside of online chatting with each other, and use real life to bring together each other’s unique personal values ??to create attraction, and then break through the ambiguous period and upgrade the relationship. This is often more disgusting than talking on the Internet. are much more practical.
Whether the chat is hot or not is actually not an insignificant value-added item for both sexes. What can truly establish a relationship with each other is the character, values, ideological level, and personal value of both parties.
Generally, the love gained through chatting will not last long. But through the Internet, mutual attraction, mutual understanding and tolerance in reality, a relationship can often be long-lasting.
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