The best way to get closer to a girl is to chat, but many boys don’t know how to get closer to each other. As a result, even if they have known a girl for a long time, the relationship remains the same as when they first met. . Below, the editor will teach you 4 chatting skills and tell you how to get closer to girls through chatting and make the relationship closer.
1. Establish a sense of rapport
Under normal circumstances, before we chat with girls, The feeling that a few sentences bring to a girl can basically define the entire impression of us in her mind. Therefore, if we want to get closer to girls through chatting, the first step we need to do is to start the chat well and establish a sufficient sense of rapport in the first few sentences of the chat. So what exactly should you do?
The answer is to let the girl think you are an interesting person, and then let her think that your inner qualities are serious. When she likes you, let her find that you are also Like her.
Because if you are serious in the early stage, girls will feel that chatting with you is too serious and boring, and they will not get to know you further, or even "every day" Uh-huh, oh, okay" was the perfunctory reply.
Another thing is that if a girl hints that she likes you before she likes you, then everything you show to the girl later will be regarded by the girl as a means and method of "pursuing her", and she already knows it in advance. , naturally there is no curiosity and freshness, so how to attract girls.
2. Establish a shallow sense of security
After establishing a sufficient sense of rapport, next, We also need to create enough sense of security for her during the chat.
For example:
We met a person on the road, and he came to chat with us. This person was very interesting to talk to, and we had a lot of fun chatting with him, but you can trust him completely. Him? Obviously not, because there are so many people on the street, why would they come to us? For the sake of security, you will ask the other person what they are going to do or where they live, and offset the insecurity by getting the other person’s real information.
The same is true when chatting with a girl. When she feels your charm during the chat, she will also wonder why you are chatting with her instead of looking for someone else. The same is true if you are chatting with other girls.
Once you fail to dispel this feeling in a girl’s heart, she will choose to disconnect from you because of her insecurity.
So we need to show that we are not a "Neptune", we also have a stable and real side of ourselves, and being interesting is just our natural attribute, so that girls will not choose to leave because they feel unsafe.
3. ConstructionEstablishing a sense of connection at the middle level
With a sense of security, the sense of strangeness is eliminated. However, after a long time, there will still be situations where there is nothing to talk about, and it is still difficult to close the distance. Therefore, let’s next You also need to establish a sense of middle-level connection, and try to find something in common with the girl during the chat, such as the weird things you encountered part-time during school or the weird companies and bosses you met when you first started working.
The sense of connection established by these shared experiences with the girl is the foundation of your future relationship with the girl.
IV. Establishing deep emotional links
With the emotional foundation, the last thing we have to do is to further deepen these foundations, that is, to establish deep emotional links. Suggesting that girls "have a crush on her too."
Of course, this is not for you to express your feelings directly, but for you to hint, such as:
"I didn’t expect that we get along so well, and I am willing to share some of my thoughts with you."
"We really have a good understanding of each other."
Go and express your tacit understanding and compatibility with the girl, and narrow the distance between you and the girl. When you have completed this In one step, the relationship between you will naturally become closer.
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