Recently, while chatting with my best friend about the topic of relationships, I suddenly realized that many of my female friends are struggling with finding a partner. Some say, "Why can't I find the right person even though I'm not bad?" while others complain, "Every date feels like an interview, it's so exhausting." As someone who has gone from being a novice in love to a seasoned "veteran," I really want to share some insights with everyone.
I remember when I first started dating, I was a complete "black hole" in relationships. On one date, I was so nervous that I couldn't even speak properly, and as a result, the other person thought I wasn't interested and never contacted me again. It was only later that I realized that love is actually an art that needs to be learned; it's not something that can be achieved solely by relying on "feelings."
First and foremost, we need to learn to love ourselves. This is so important! I have a friend who completely lost herself after getting into a relationship, constantly revolving around her boyfriend and even giving up her favorite yoga classes. What happened? Her boyfriend ended up feeling she was too clingy and broke up with her. So, no matter how much you like someone, always remember to maintain your own life and interests. As one netizen commented, "Reading this carefully, it really makes sense!"
Secondly, don"t change yourself just to please someone else. I once cut my long hair, which I had kept for years, to please my ex-boyfriend, only for him to say, "I actually liked you better with long hair." From then on, I understood: someone who truly loves you will love you for who you are. Of course, making appropriate changes is fine, but never overdo it to the point of losing yourself.
Another crucial point is learning to communicate. Many girls like to make their boyfriends guess what they"re thinking, believing that "if he really loves me, he should know what I'm thinking." In reality, guys aren't that perceptive. Instead of sulking, it's better to directly express your needs. As one netizen commented, "Communicate issues promptly, don't let love deteriorate through suspicion."
Lastly, I want to say that love is not everything in life. Even when you have a boyfriend, remember to keep improving yourself. Whether it"s learning new skills or cultivating hobbies, these can help you maintain your charm in a relationship. After all, independent and confident women are the most attractive!
I hope these insights can be helpful to those of you who are searching for love. Remember, good love is about mutual growth, not mutual depletion. May we all meet the right person and have a sweet, fulfilling relationship!
