Online dating is our ultimate goal, and to achieve this goal can only be achieved through chatting, but many boys don’t know how to chat online every day, so the relationship is still stagnant after chatting for a long time. What about online dating? How should we chat every day to upgrade the relationship?
1. Don’t deliberately please
Many boys do very well when chatting with girls online and do not deliberately try to please them. But after establishing an online dating relationship, in order to ask a girl out, my pleasing personality was completely exposed and I lowered my attitude.
For example
Female: "I heard that Wanda has opened a new Western restaurant"
Male: "Then I will invite you to eat someday" (wrong Answer)
Male: "Really? I also like to eat Western food. I just went to Wanda to eat with my friends last Sunday. I don't know if I am talking about a restaurant." (Correct answer)< /p>
The first wrong way of answering exposed the sense of need, as if catering to please the girl. The second correct answer, on the one hand, combines the girl's preferences with the conversation to make the girl feel that you have the same hobbies; on the other hand, it shows your life taste to the girl, which increases your impression in the girl's mind.
2. Appropriate care
After confirming the online dating relationship, occasional relationships are definitely indispensable. But most boys will only care about girls in a domineering and tough way. She will definitely like them. For example, when chatting, they will say "take good care of yourself" or "wear more clothes when it's cold" when chatting. This is actually a brain-dead idol drama. Brainwashed.
With this kind of behavior, girls in online dating will not only not find you attractive, but will only feel bored. This is a "macho" mistake.
For example
Girl: "I really want to eat spicy food today"
Boy: "You already have a cold and fever, why are you still thinking about eating spicy food?" , must not eat it” (wrong answer)
Boy: “I just happened to want to eat it recently. Anyway, you are not afraid of catching a cold and we will make it together” (correct answer)
A wrong answer is a sign of not understanding what a girl is thinking and being overly concerned about the girl. The second correct answer will make the girl feel that you understand her very well, and you will definitely have fun with her, and at the same time, you will achieve the purpose of inviting the girl on a date.
3. Create emotional resonance
Online dating wants to quickly shorten the distance and achieve the purpose of dating. Then you need to "emotionally resonate" with girls, emotionally resonateIt is a shortcut to quickly enter the inner world of girls.
Emotional resonance can be summed up as: shared experiences + shared feelings.
1. Shared experiences
If you want to establish a common experience with a girl, the easiest way is to find the girl’s hobbies and entertainment areas, such as finding her usual friends from the girl’s circle of friends. Likes and dislikes, and then explore shared experiences between you through chatting.
2. Express the same feelings
When expressing feelings, it is best not to talk to girls about very emotional topics, such as houses, cars, jobs, salaries, etc.; but if you and girls When girls talk about movies, celebrities, gossip, food, zodiac signs, etc., I believe they can have the same feelings as girls.
3. Express unique emotions
Women are the most emotional creatures in the world, chatting with girls Try to express your feelings as much as possible, that is, try not to make comments or opinions.
For example, if a girl is scolded by her boss at work, when she is complaining to you, do not talk to her about right and wrong or argue about right and wrong. A girl is already very sad when she is scolded by her boss. Now, Your blaming will only make her feel more unhappy with you; the correct approach is to stand from her perspective: "You have worked so hard, your boss is too inhumane," and stand in the same team with her to complain and feel sad together. .
4. Share childhood
Childhood is the most beautiful time for everyone. You can talk about childhood experiences with girls while seeking common ground while reserving differences, such as: "When I was a child, my life was so carefree and wonderful. When I grow up, But later I found that work and life were too complicated." This is a tried-and-tested trick for building resonance.
When you have established enough emotional resonance between you, the relationship has gone from pure online dating to the point where you can become a real person. At this time, don’t hesitate to express your inner thoughts.
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