Recently, a friend came to me lamenting that the girl he had been pursuing for a long time suddenly told him "don't contact me anymore," leaving him completely stunned. Honestly, I've been in this situation before, and at the time, I was at a loss too. But looking back now, if handled properly, it can actually make the other person chase you instead. Today, let's talk about this topic and share some of my experiences and insights.
First, don't panic. When a girl says "don't contact me," it doesn't necessarily mean it's completely over. Often, it's just her testing you or due to some misunderstandings. At this point, the most important thing is to calm down and not rush to explain or apologize. As my friend said, "The more beautiful the girl, the less you should try to please her, and definitely don't grovel." This is absolutely true. The more you act subservient, the less she will value you.
Next, the first step is to enhance your own charm. This might sound cliché, but it's really important. You can work on both your external and internal aspects. Externally, pay attention to your dressing and grooming, keeping yourself clean and tidy. Internally, read more, learn more, and improve your eloquence and knowledge. I have a friend who was originally a homebody but started working out and learning photography, and his whole demeanor changed. As a result, a girl who previously ignored him started contacting him on her own.
The second step is to be bold and thick-skinned. When pursuing a girl, you really can't be too concerned about saving face. I've seen too many guys who are afraid of rejection and don't even dare to initiate a conversation, missing out on great opportunities. In fact, girls don't dislike proactive guys, as long as your approach is appropriate. Try expressing your thoughts more in conversations, like "I think you're really interesting and would like to get to know you better," or "Your outfit today looks great." Remember, don't be afraid of saying the wrong thing; girls care more about your attitude than every word being perfect.
The third step is to be attentive and considerate. Girls really pay attention to details. You can start with small things, like remembering her favorite coffee flavor or bringing her some late-night snacks when she"s working overtime. I have a friend who, when the girl he liked casually mentioned "I've been so tired lately," silently noted it and brought her favorite milk tea the next day. The girl was so touched that she later asked him out for dinner.
Finally, I want to say that pursuing a girl isn"t a game but a process of mutual understanding. Don't be too concerned about the outcome; just enjoy the process. As the netizen "Insomniac Lao Wang" said, "Fate is a mysterious thing, but sometimes you need to take the initiative to pursue it." So, don't be afraid of failure, and bravely go after it!
I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. If you have similar experiences or thoughts, feel free to share them in the comments, and let"s chat together!
❋ Tags: