Recently, I had a chat with a few girlfriends who have just started dating, and I noticed that they often feel insecure in their relationships, either getting too emotionally invested too quickly or getting hurt too easily. As someone who has been through it, I feel it's necessary to share some small pieces of advice about dating, hoping to help those women who are new to the dating scene.
First and foremost, I want to emphasize that the most important thing in a relationship is to maintain your sense of self. Many women tend to lose themselves once they start dating, focusing all their attention on their partner. In reality, truly remarkable men value whether their partner truly appreciates them when looking for a girlfriend. For instance, a friend of mine never bothers to please women who don't like him from the start; instead, he invests his time and energy in those who genuinely appreciate him. Therefore, women should remember not to change themselves to please someone else. The right person will love you for who you are.
Secondly, respect and admiration are crucial in a relationship. If a guy frequently, whether intentionally or not, criticizes your appearance, body, or family background, then this relationship might not be worth continuing. A good relationship should make you more confident, not make you doubt yourself. As some netizens say, "If you find yourself becoming increasingly insecure in a relationship, always feeling inadequate, it's likely that PUA (Pick-Up Artist) tactics are at play." Therefore, the best choice in such situations is to leave decisively.
Another point is to be wary of "mama's boys." If a guy always starts sentences with "My mom says," you might need to prepare yourself, because you might not just be dating him, but also his mother. While filial piety is a virtue, filial piety without independence can complicate a relationship. For example, another friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend because he always listened to his mother and had no opinions of his own. So, women must keep their eyes open in relationships and not be deceived by superficial gentleness.
Of course, it"s also important to learn how to be coquettish in a relationship, but it's crucial to know the limits. Being coquettish can be a great way to enhance a relationship, but it should never be overdone. Some women like to test their boyfriends in various ways, such as deliberately not answering calls or making unreasonable demands, but these actions only tire the other person. True love doesn't need to be proven through such tests; it's hidden in the daily details and in every exchange of glances.
Lastly, I want to say that to judge whether a man loves you, don"t just listen to what he says, but watch what he does. Sweet words are nice to hear, but actions are what truly matter. If he truly loves you, you will feel his care, his efforts, and his tolerance. If he only talks the talk, then this relationship might not be worth investing too much in.
In conclusion, dating is beautiful, but it also requires rationality. I hope every woman new to the dating scene can find her own happiness in love. Remember, loving yourself is the most important thing.
