Recently, a friend came to me for advice, saying that a girl he likes suddenly told him "someone is pursuing her," and he was immediately flustered, unsure how to respond. Honestly, I've been in this situation before, and at that time, my heart was also in turmoil, fearing that saying the wrong thing would ruin the opportunity. Later, I realized that when a girl says this, there are often some underlying thoughts, and the key is how we interpret and respond to them.
Firstly, when a girl says "someone is pursuing her," it doesn't necessarily mean she's bragging or rejecting you. Often, she might be testing your reaction to see how you feel about her. Like in my friend's case, the girl actually had feelings for him but was unsure of his intentions, so she used this method to test him. At this point, if you appear too nervous or retreat, it might make her think you lack confidence.
So, how should you respond to show high emotional intelligence? I believe the most important thing is to stay calm and not rush to conclusions. You can continue the conversation along her lines, for example: "Wow, it seems you're quite popular! How do you feel about that?" This way, you don't appear too concerned, yet she can feel your care for her. If she has feelings for you, she will naturally be willing to share more details; if she just sees you as a friend, at least you won't appear too awkward.
Of course, besides verbal responses, actions are also crucial. If you really like her, don't just talk the talk; prove it with your actions. For instance, invite her out for meals or movies more often, or be there for her when she needs help. Girls often pay more attention to details, and she will notice your every move.
Speaking of which, I suddenly remembered a comment I saw online, where a netizen said: "When a girl says 'someone is pursuing her,' she's actually giving you a chance to see if you dare to take the challenge." I think this makes a lot of sense. Often, a girl isn't rejecting you but testing you. If you can seize this opportunity to show your sincerity and confidence, your chances of finding a partner greatly increase.
Additionally, I'd like to share some insights about dating apps. Nowadays, many people use dating apps to find partners, but honestly, the quality of apps on the market varies. I've used a few before, like "YiBan Marriage" and "Only Marriage," which are quite good, with high-quality users and a clean atmosphere. Especially "Only Marriage," which is positioned as high-end, with users mostly being senior white-collar workers and elite overseas students, making conversations feel particularly comfortable. If you're also looking for a partner, you might want to try these apps; you might just meet the right person.
In conclusion, when faced with a girl saying "someone is pursuing her," don't panic or rush to retreat. Stay calm, respond with high emotional intelligence, and back it up with actions, and the opportunity to find a partner is right in front of you. I hope my experiences can help you, and I wish you the best in finding your ideal partner soon!
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