Recently, while chatting with friends about relationships, I noticed that many guys are puzzled by how to respond when a girl says "not suitable" or "whatever." As someone who has been through this, I'd like to share some insights.
First, let's talk about the "not suitable" scenario. I remember pursuing a girl in college who told me, "I feel we're not suitable." Honestly, it hurt at the time, but upon reflection, I realized that such a statement carries a lot of information. As some netizens have pointed out, "When a girl says 'not suitable,' she's often politely expressing rejection." While this is true, it's not always the case.
Sometimes, "not suitable" might literally mean just that—perhaps your personalities clash, or your lifestyles are too different. In such cases, rather than persistently pursuing, it's better to respect her choice. For instance, a friend of mine, after his girlfriend said "not suitable," chose to take a step back and focus on self-improvement. Six months later, she reached out, noting how much more mature he had become, and now they are in a very happy relationship.
Now, onto the classic dilemma of "whatever." Many guys have faced this: asking their girlfriend what she wants to eat, and she says "whatever"; asking what movie she wants to watch, and again, "whatever." Actually, when a girl says "whatever," she's often testing how attentive you are. As one netizen commented, "When a girl says 'whatever,' she's actually seeing if you understand her."
From my experience, in such situations, it's helpful to offer specific options. For example, when asking what she wants to eat, you might say, "I heard there's a new Sichuan restaurant, or we could try that Japanese place you mentioned last time?" This approach provides choices while showing that you remember her preferences.
However, the most important thing in a relationship is sincerity. Instead of racking your brains to guess her thoughts, it"s better to communicate openly. For example, with my current girlfriend, we often encountered the "whatever" scenario early in our relationship. We agreed that if one says "whatever," the other should make a decision but also explain the reasoning behind it. This not only avoids indecision but also deepens mutual understanding.
In conclusion, whether it"s "not suitable" or "whatever," these are just minor episodes in the journey of love. What's crucial is to remain sincere, respect each other, and also learn to love oneself. After all, only by becoming a better version of yourself can you meet someone truly compatible.
Remember, relationships are not guessing games but a process of mutual cultivation. Instead of obsessing over a single phrase, focus on improving yourself and nurturing the relationship. Believe that with sincerity, you will find your own happiness.
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