Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about the topic of self-protection in romantic relationships, and it left a deep impression on me. To be honest, the current dating environment is quite complex, especially for women, who might inadvertently fall into the trap of a "Sea King" (a term used to describe a man who dates multiple women simultaneously). Therefore, today I want to share some insights on how to maintain your boundaries in a relationship and avoid unnecessary harm.
First and foremost, never lend money or take out loans for your partner. I understand that women in love can be easily swayed, especially when the other person appears extremely sincere and even swears, "I love you." But you must remember, no matter how sweet his words are, lending money is a line you should never cross. Once you lend money, you might end up losing both the person and the money, and you'll have to bear all the risks yourself. As someone in the comments section aptly put it, "In the end, the man can walk away without any responsibility," and this is absolutely true. So, no matter how pitiful he acts or how many promises he makes, stay clear-headed and don't let yourself fall into such a predicament.
Secondly, never get pregnant before marriage. I know that some women in relationships might feel that "he's the one," or even think, "I can't marry anyone else." But getting pregnant before marriage can leave you in a very vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally. A netizen in the comments section made a very good point: "Getting pregnant before marriage indeed puts women in a more passive position and causes greater harm, especially physically. Meanwhile, men can basically walk away unscathed." This really hits the nail on the head. So, never gamble with your life; protecting yourself is the most important thing.
Thirdly, never give up your ability to earn your own money. In a relationship, some men might say, "I'll take care of you," which sounds romantic, but don't let it cloud your judgment. Even if the allowance he gives you is higher than your current salary, and even if his promises are rock-solid, never give up your ability to earn your own money. Because once you do, over time, you'll be the one who feels psychologically imbalanced, the one who has to watch your words, and the one who struggles after a breakup. As someone in the comments section said, "Who wasn't once the little princess at home, living a carefree life? Why should you be blamed, or even unable to afford your favorite durian?" This is truly heartbreaking. So, no matter how sweet the relationship is, maintain your independence and don't let yourself fall into such a predicament.
Lastly, never be the other woman. I know that some women might like someone so much that they're even willing to be a backup. But doing so will only gradually erode your dignity, and in the end, you'll be the one making compromises and possibly sacrificing your reputation. A netizen in the comments section put it well: "Being the other woman is something everyone despises because it can destroy a good family, and you still won't gain any respect." So, no matter how much you like this person, uphold your boundaries and don't let yourself fall into such a situation.
In summary, self-protection in love is incredibly important. No matter how much you love someone, keep a clear head and uphold your boundaries. Because, in the end, the only person who will be with you is yourself. I hope every woman can find true happiness in love, rather than subjecting herself to unnecessary harm.
