Recently, while chatting with my close friend about matters of the heart, I suddenly realized that many women tend to overthink in relationships. They might like someone but are afraid to confess; they have needs but are too shy to voice them. This reminded me of my past self, always fearing that expressing my needs would make me seem less valuable or that the other person might find me too troublesome.
In fact, the most taboo in a relationship is being overly complicated. Take the story of my friend Qingmei, for example. She never dared to make demands, not even when she was crying from the spiciness of hotpot. Fortunately, she met Dagang, a man who respects and cares for her. Dagang always reminds her, "If you want something, just say it, don't make me guess." Gradually, Qingmei learned to express her needs, and their relationship became sweeter.
Another example is Yuzhu and Xiaofeng. Yuzhu always hoped that Xiaofeng would "understand her," but when Xiaofeng bought the wrong drink, it led to an unpleasant situation. Later, Yuzhu realized that her partner isn't a mind reader; if she doesn't speak up, he really doesn't know what she's thinking. From then on, she learned to express herself directly, and their relationship improved.
Honestly, I used to be a complicated person too. I liked someone but was afraid to confess, always thinking that taking the initiative would make me seem less valuable. Later, I understood that admitting your feelings isn"t shameful; it's actually brave. As "Mr. Lin, who doesn't eat spicy food" commented, being honest with each other is the foundation of a relationship.
In relationships, women really need to learn to be more straightforward. If you want something, say it; don"t make the other person guess. After all, everyone is quite busy; who has the time to guess your thoughts? Moreover, expressing your needs directly not only makes you more comfortable but also helps the other person understand you better, naturally leading to a more harmonious relationship.
Of course, being straightforward doesn"t mean being willful. We also need to learn to respect each other's feelings, to be tolerant and understanding. Like Qingmei and Dagang, caring for and fulfilling each other, such relationships are the ones that last.
Finally, to those women who are still overthinking: stop complicating things. If you like someone, go after them; if you want something, say it. Relationships are supposed to be beautiful; why let yourself get caught in endless internal conflicts? Let go, open up, accept the present, and everything will fall into place as it should.
