Recently, while chatting with a few friends, I noticed a common concern: the difficulty of finding a partner. It's not about not being able to meet people, but rather about not knowing how to express one's needs, which often leads to missed opportunities or unpleasant situations. Today, I want to discuss this topic and share some observations and insights.
First and foremost, I believe that communication is the most crucial aspect of a relationship. Just as we cried when we were hungry or thirsty as children, we need to learn to express our needs in a relationship. A friend named Qingmei, who was always hesitant to make requests, once had a spicy hotpot on her first date that made her eyes water. Fortunately, her boyfriend, Dagang, was very attentive and immediately showed concern, reminding her to speak up about her needs in the future. From then on, Qingmei gradually learned to express herself, and their relationship improved significantly.
In reality, many people have experiences similar to Qingmei"s, feeling embarrassed to make requests or hoping that their partner can "guess" their thoughts. However, the truth is, your partner isn't a mind reader; if you don't speak up, they genuinely won't know. Another friend, Yuzhu, often made her boyfriend, Xiaofeng, guess her thoughts, leading to frequent minor conflicts. After some communication, Yuzhu understood the importance of direct expression, and their relationship became more harmonious.
Therefore, I believe that confidently expressing your needs is crucial in a relationship. Not only does it help your partner understand you better, but it also prevents many unnecessary misunderstandings. As Dagang said, "If you want a watermelon, don't let me bring back sesame seeds." Speaking directly makes things easier for everyone.
Lastly, I want to emphasize that a relationship is not a guessing game but a journey of mutual growth for both individuals. Learning to express your needs not only boosts your confidence in the relationship but also allows your partner to feel your sincerity and trust. I hope these small pieces of advice can help those struggling to find love, and I wish everyone the best in finding someone who understands and loves you!
