Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of dating, I noticed that everyone has their own set of confusions and insights. Today, I want to share some small tips and considerations about dating, hoping to provide some inspiration.
First, let's talk about shopping, a topic that women are certainly familiar with. Shopping is not only a great way to relax but also an excellent opportunity to enhance relationships. When a woman mentions she's shopping, a man who can respond with humor and high emotional intelligence can definitely score some points. For example, you could say, "Did you see anything that would suit us together while shopping? Like something in a couple's style." This type of ambiguous hint can make her imagine scenes of you two together, adding a romantic atmosphere. Or, "I wish I could be the shopping bag in your hand, so I could always be with you." This imaginative expression is both romantic and ambiguous, sure to make her heart flutter.
There are also caring and considerate responses, such as, "Wow, shopping must be fun! But don't tire yourself out. If you get tired, find a place to rest; I'd feel bad for you." This way of expressing concern lets her feel your thoughtfulness, and words like "feel bad" add an ambiguous touch. Or, "Did you see anything you liked while shopping? Next time we go together, I'll buy it for you." This hints at future shopping trips together and shows your generosity and the importance you place on her.
Humorous and teasing responses are also popular, like, "Haha, did you think of me while shopping? Maybe I'll suddenly appear in front of you to surprise you." This humorous approach makes her think of you while shopping and adds fun and anticipation with the mention of a possible surprise. Or, "You're shopping, and I'm here missing you. Isn't that a bit unfair? How about you bring me a little gift when you come back to make up for it." This playful way lets her feel your longing, and bringing a gift can create a topic for the next meeting.
Of course, in a relationship, it's not just men who need high emotional intelligence; women also have many things to be mindful of. First, the biggest taboo is being overly obsessed with love. Some women prioritize love above all else, neglecting everything else, constantly thinking about and wanting to be with their boyfriend 24/7. When the man gets tired and breaks up, she feels as if the sky has fallen, without love, career, or life, living in a daze. Therefore, women must maintain independence in a relationship, having their own career and life, with the boyfriend being just a part of it.
Next is excessive giving. Love should be a two-way street, but some girls place men on a pedestal to show their virtue. They do laundry and cook for the man, wear and use ordinary things themselves, but buy brand names for their boyfriend, saying that men need face outside. I ask, don't women need face too? The more you do this, the less you will be cherished. I've seen such cases among my friends, where a classmate lived with her boyfriend for three to four years, being extremely virtuous, even washing her boyfriend's feet, saying he was tired from working all day. When I asked her, "Don't you get tired from working all day too?" she replied, "I sit in the office; it's not that hard." Well, I had nothing to say after that, but after about four years of living together, her boyfriend broke up with her and married another girl within months. My friend was heartbroken and asked the man, "I treated you so well, why did you leave me? What did I do wrong?" The man replied, "I need a wife, not a servant." If a man hasn't proposed after such a long time, it's likely he doesn't intend to marry you. In a relationship, it must be equal; don't place yourself too low, or the man will look down on you, leading to abandonment.
Also, protect yourself. Nowadays, premarital cohabitation is common, but I personally advise against it too early. If you haven"t figured out what kind of person the other is, rushing into cohabitation is irresponsible to yourself. Even if you cohabit, protect yourself, try not to get pregnant too early. If you get pregnant without plans to marry, you might have to abort, which harms your body. If you're not careful and this happens often, it could lead to habitual miscarriage or infertility. Only women suffer physical harm from such situations. If a man truly loves you, he wouldn't let you get pregnant repeatedly. If a man prioritizes his pleasure over your health, it's clear he doesn't love you and probably never intended to marry you. There are also cases where cohabitation leads to pregnancy, and the man decides to marry you but feels you have to marry because of the pregnancy, thus skimping on the bride price or simplifying the wedding, not valuing you enough because you're pregnant and can't run away. Such things, I believe, are not uncommon.
In summary, when women are in love, they should love their boyfriend but also themselves, have their own career and life, with the boyfriend being just a part. If a man leaves you, it"s no big deal. Don't be overly submissive; remember, love is about mutual giving. Protect your body and be a dignified woman.
In conclusion, high emotional intelligence and self-protection are crucial in a relationship. I hope these tips and considerations help you navigate your relationships more smoothly and happily.
