Recently, while chatting with friends about relationships, I noticed many guys complaining: "Girls are so hard to understand. Everything seems to be going well, and then suddenly they say we're not compatible." Honestly, as an observer, I think this confusion is quite common. In fact, when a girl says "we're not compatible," there are often underlying psychological needs that guys might not be picking up on.
Firstly, security is what girls value the most. I have a friend who once pursued a girl. They got along well, but every time he tried to advance the relationship, she would become distant. Later, he found out that she actually liked him but felt he was too eager, which made her uneasy. Girls need time in a relationship to confirm whether the other person is reliable and trustworthy. As someone in the comments section said, "Everyone is busy; no one has time to wait for you to warm up slowly." But it's precisely this "slow warming up" that is the girl's way of observing and testing you. If you can remain patient during this process and show your sincerity and stability, the girl will feel more secure with you.
Secondly, girls need to feel loved. This sounds simple but is actually quite subtle. For example, some girls might see replying to messages instantly as a sign of love, while others might value whether you are willing to put thought into things for them. I have a friend who once didn"t check the route before a date, causing the girl to walk a lot in high heels unnecessarily, which led to her suddenly becoming cold. He didn't realize what the problem was at the time, but later understood that she felt he wasn't considerate enough and didn't care about her feelings. So, when pursuing a girl, it's crucial to pay attention to her feelings, not just focus on the outcome. As the article says, "In relationships, only by doing the process well can you naturally achieve a good result."
Lastly, girls need to see hope for the future. This is especially important, particularly for girls over 25. When choosing a partner, they not only look at the current feelings but also consider future possibilities. I know a girl who had been in a relationship for many years but was hesitant to marry because she felt her boyfriend had no plans for the future, which made her see no hope. Later, when her boyfriend started seriously planning his career and life, she finally decided to marry him. Therefore, when pursuing a girl, besides being good to her, you also need to show her your potential and the possibilities for the future.
In summary, when a girl says "we're not compatible," it doesn't necessarily mean she has no feelings for you. It's often that some deeper needs in the relationship are not being met. If you can understand these needs and work to fulfill them in your interactions, you'll find that girls aren't that hard to understand. Of course, relationships are a two-way street, and guys also need to continuously improve themselves while pursuing love. As someone in the comments section said, "Seriously making money is the key." But I think making money and pursuing relationships are not conflicting; the key is whether you are willing to put in the effort for happiness.
Finally, to those guys who are confused about relationships: don"t rush to give up or jump to conclusions. Spend more time understanding the psychological needs of girls, and you'll find that relationships aren't that complicated. If you put your heart into it, happiness will naturally come knocking.
