When many boys are chasing girls, they basically squeeze out time to chat with girls every day, thinking that by doing this to increase their presence, they can deepen the girl’s impression of them and thus develop feelings for them.
However, this way of chatting will only make you lose the sense of mystery and make girls feel bored. After all, the focus of chatting is quality rather than quantity. So how can we chat with girls to express feelings?
1. Do a good job in your own psychological construction
I believe that most boys who have used social software can feel that in reality, ordinary-looking girls may not reply to you if you say hello on it. This is because she receives too many pick-up messages every day.
In fact, this is also the case in our lives. The girl you are chasing may be chased by other girls.
Because girls are beautiful, we are influenced by visual cues and will try our best to attract them, but we often ignore the reality that there is only one of her on your phone, but there may be several people lined up on her phone. Wait in line to chat with her.
Therefore, there is an imbalance of energy here, which breeds girls' "sense of superiority". Your enthusiasm and initiative will naturally give girls a feeling of "boring, kneeling, and too easy to get." , you are at a social disadvantage from the beginning. In this state, no matter how you talk, it is difficult to talk about feelings.
Therefore, if we want to talk about feelings with girls through chatting, we still need to do a good job in psychological construction, keep our mentality calm, and not have too much need.
2. Passive display of high value
Many boys will deliberately enlarge their image in order to gain favor from girls. , will take the initiative to show their own value. However, many girls will not buy this kind of display, and may even think that you are showing off. How can such a chat bring out feelings?
In fact, I think It's okay to show your own value, but we have to learn to show it passively. After all, what you say actively can easily give the other person a feeling of showing off. For example, if you have a car, it is better than telling people nakedly that you have a car. Or send someone a photo of your car keys or steering wheel. Instead of saying in the chat: "I'll talk to you later, I'm driving." Or send her a photo of a self-driving trip, a photo of the scenery taken from inside the car. You can show that you own a car and chat with girls through the scenery. Such a high-value display effect is more effective.
Of course, this model can be used not only for cars, but also for other aspects of value display. For example, if you like running, you can say: "Let's not chat for now. My friend asked me to go out for a night run." The image of a sunny boy who loves sports has been established among girls.
3. Master the rhythm of chatting with girls
If you want to express feelings with girls through chatting, another important thing is to learn to master the rhythm of chatting. .
If a girl replies, let’s just reply; if a girl has a bad attitude, we shouldn’t be too enthusiastic; if a girl doesn’t want to talk, we shouldn’t pester her to talk to her.
Don’t. We will only cater to girls, which will only make her feel that we are easy to get, and will not make her curious and desirable. Such chats will easily make her lose interest, let alone talk about feelings.
4. Mobilize girls' emotions
Girls are emotional animals. When their emotions reach the highest point of positivity, they tend to be more willing When she accepts others, for example, when someone praises her, she will feel that this person is good and want to get close to him, so she can express feelings better and faster, and she must learn to arouse the girl's emotions during the chat.
Of course, just praising girls will have a relatively single emotional point, so we must go from "praise" to "plainness" to "curiosity". Several reversals will give girls a better emotional experience, such as: < /p>
Male: Your eyes are so charming, as if they hide a whole world (pull)
Female: Thank you
Male: I think most men like it ( Recommended)
Female: Really
Male: A good-looking appearance hides an ordinary life, and an ordinary life hides an amazing soul
Compliment girls details, and then say that most men like it, the subtext is actually telling girls that they are not most men, from praise to indifference, and then finally involves the topic of the soul, arousing girls' curiosity, and thus having in-depth communication with girls. To achieve the purpose of talking about feelings
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