Why are you nervous about talking to girls- How to eliminate this state-

★ Posted on 12-27,2024



I usually talk freely when chatting with friends, but when it comes to chatting with girls, I get extremely nervous and don’t know what to say at all. I believe this is something many boys have experienced. It is precisely for this reason that many brothers have remained single to this day. What should we do in this situation?

First of all, let’s understand why we are nervous about chatting with girls?

1. Why do you feel nervous when chatting with girls?

If you are facing a girl you have a crush on. From a superficial analysis, it is simply because you care about your image in front of her and take this matter too seriously.

So I put a lot of pressure on myself, resulting in abnormal performance. On a deeper level, this is actually related to male instinct.

Everyone should know that in order to continue genes, courtship is the instinct of animals in nature, especially for males. When faced with a girl who wants to take advantage of you, your instinct will make you secrete adrenaline in your body, making you nervous and sweaty.

This is equivalent to a disguised warning, reminding you that she is very important to you, allowing you to seize the opportunity and take good care of her. Performance. For some boys, this may be a good stimulant, but for most honest boys, it seems to have the opposite effect.

Another situation is that I feel nervous when facing any girl. Put aside the possibility that you regard every girl as a courtship object, and the psychological shadow brought by your original family.

This situation occurs because you have too few contacts with the opposite sex, and the sense of strangeness arouses a sense of danger, and adrenaline begins to be secreted at the same time, making you nervous and cramped.

So how should we change this nervous state when chatting with girls?

2. How to relieve tension when chatting with girls?

For friends who are nervous when facing a girl they like, if they keep mentally hinting to themselves not to be nervous, it may not have much effect.

Even more and more nervous. I have mentioned above why we are nervous, so let’s take another step to look at it. The signal it releases is actually to ‘get’.

Our problem is that we want it too much, but we know that it is difficult to get it, which leads to low availability. Now the solution is out. If you want to relieve the tension, improve your availability and increase your attractiveness to girls. With confidence, you will naturally not be so nervous.

As for friends who are nervous when facing girls, I can only suggest that you have more contact with girls. However, don’t think about your romantic partners, just talk to them as same-sex friends.

Don’t think that you can’t find a girl to talk to. There are many opportunities in life. For example, helping them with a little favor, picking up something, etc. are all small ways to open up the conversation with girls.

Then, friends must understand that the change of mentality is not just about self-suggestion. The key lies in action. Only by taking action can you gain experience, and the accumulation of experience is an important way to build confidence.

So you must try it and don’t just avoid it. Once you have confidence, many problems will be solved easily. Finally, it is necessary to tell everyone that nervousness is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes we must know how to accept our own nervousness.

Many girls have said that they don’t care about boys’ nervousness. Some girls even think that boys who are easily nervous are cute and innocent, and they have a good impression of them.

Moreover, a girl who is still friendly to you and does not dislike you when you are nervous and overwhelmed is most likely to be warm and kind. Girls who laugh at you because you are too nervous may not be the right person for you.

In terms of mentality, we can think of it this way. If she also likes you, then this tension can become a little fun between you two.

If she doesn’t like you, it doesn’t matter whether you are nervous or not, your focus should still be on how to increase your attraction to her.


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