Why is it so difficult for many people to fall in love?
Today’s society is the Internet age. The first impression accounts for 70% of the interactions between people, and the first attraction is largely reflected in Your circle of friends.
It is very important to trust the circle of friends. The circle of friends is the potential communication of the first impression between you and the person you like.
Until today in 2022, I still We often see that many boys’ WeChat avatars are cartoon characters. When I open the circle of friends, there is not a single photo of myself in it.
Then he asked me: Hey, I know a girl who I haven’t met yet. Why is she so hot and cold to me on WeChat?
The reason why he asked such a question was because he didn’t do it. One thing is clear. If you want to make a girl attracted to you on WeChat, you must do these 4 things.
The first step: Sufficient initial attraction
The second step: Easy chat interaction
Step Three: Chat to reasonably stretch the relationship
Step Four: Chat to control the rhythm
The first step here is The initial attraction must be sufficient. What does it mean? That is, your circle of friends must be sufficient!
If you think about a problem, a beautiful girl may have several men chatting with her every day, but she does not So much time is spent chatting with everyone, let alone being with every man.
It is impossible for her to meet every man, so she will conduct a round of screening on WeChat online to filter out those losers.
You can imagine that this is like an interview, then the circle of friends is the first round of screening, just like the resume during the interview.
Therefore, the construction of friend circles and WeChat avatars is very important. If you don’t build it, you will die at the starting line. Now is no longer the era of QQ chat.
In the past, in online chat rooms, as long as you were a little bit interesting, girls would meet you. Now everyone is using aircraft, cannons and even nuclear weapons. The PK between men is very cruel. You still use the most primitive Is the method to wait for death?
If If you don’t build a circle of good friends, there will be seven major disadvantages.
1. Girls will feel that you are not confident and dare not post photos of yourself
2. Moments can allow girls to get to know you, otherwise your chat will be very tiring
3. It’s difficult for girls to do short videosIt takes a while to see your inner advantages, but you will slowly lose the opportunity
4. Girls are visual animals. Photos are the most direct way to convey attraction. It is difficult to convey attraction with words alone< /p>
5. If you don’t have a circle of friends, girls will not be able to make an impression on you, and they will have no feelings for you.
6. If others are posting in their circle of friends, girls will definitely give priority to you. Screen it out, and you will die in the bud
7. Girls will be cautious about meeting you, because there are too many scammers in this era
At the same time, you have to build a good circle of friends You will find six major benefits
1. Chatting has a boost, just like filling up the gas while driving, chatting becomes easy and simple
2. Girls will take the initiative to talk to you Find topics
3. Building a good circle of friends is equivalent to group attraction. Many potential targets in your circle of friends may also be interested in you
4. Building a circle of friends is once and for all , the newly added girl will see that the previous girls can also browse your circle of friends to deepen their attraction to her
5. Girls can get in touch with you through the interaction of likes and comments in the circle of friends Feelings and topics
Six. Because girls have an impression of you and thus feel a sense of security, girls have no worries when inviting you out
Ok, so how to build a circle of friends?
I divided it into three parts, respectively. For: principle, type, action.
The first principle: Girls are visual animals, and photos must be aesthetically pleasing.
Some boys just take two pictures and send them out. They don’t look for angles when taking pictures, and they don’t retouch them after taking them. If your pictures look good, it will make girls feel good. , this feeling will be transferred to you, and by the way, you will also have a good impression of you.
Otherwise, it will appear that your personal conditions are okay, but your photos are not good-looking, and it is easy for girls to feel disgusted.
The best way is to learn from the hot girls’ circle of friends. You can see that their photos are very exquisite, few but refined.
The second principle: Avoid low value and show high value
For example, when some boys take photos, they will reveal the dirty stains on the wall behind or in the corner of the sofa. The socks inside clearly show low value. There are also relatively obscure low values, such as complaining about one's own work or commenting on the behavior of others.
For example, girls are very materialistic, rich people are very unqualified, etc. This is the dynamic in the circle of friends. Don't forward some silly articles, such as chicken soup for the soul and success stories.Going to forward it.
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The third principle: Real people appear on camera
Some people say: If a man posts photos of himself all the time, is he too girly or too narcissistic? I want to ask: Who told you these, the so-called others. Is this person good at posting on Moments? Is he good at flirting with girls?
No, right, then why should you listen to him instead of the veteran driver?
Therefore, a real person must appear on the scene. Only you and your lifestyle can truly attract girls.
1. Arrange your hair. In all the photos in my circle of friends, there is no one with unstyled hair.
2. Details, such as eyebrow trimming, skin care, clean shaving, and clothing details.
3. Make the most of your strengths and avoid your weaknesses. If you have a big face, take photos of your whole body, show the background, and use a good-looking background to weaken the focus on your face. If you are short, take a selfie or a half-length photo.
Reminder: Not all photos need to be shot by real people. If you have to say a frequency, one of the three circles of friends must be shot by a real person.
Next let’s look at the second part : Type, that is, what specific types of posts are posted in Moments?
Here, I have summarized five types of Moments:
The first type, Reflecting taste
The second type reflects lifestyle
The third type reflects hard value p>
The fourth way is to embody love, filial piety and self-motivation
The fifth way is to use your high-value friends to reflect your value< /p>
Basically these 5 points cover the factors that an attractive circle of friends should have
The first one is to reflect taste, and what is taste?
Answer: Under the limited conditions you have, taste the ultimate beauty in life. Different feelings and attitudes towards life reflect the level of a person's taste.
A person with good taste leads a life that is elegant, refined, interesting, stylish, pursuing, and meaningful. A person with low taste leads a life that is rude, vulgar, ignorant, and boring. But often such people are self-righteous. act like a buffoon.
Question: How to make yourself tasteful?
Answer: Often repeat to yourself, "To me, the most important person in the world is me."
Treating yourself as the most important person in the world does not mean being selfish, but it means taking care of yourself as the most important person in the world. When you take care of yourself, taste will take care of itself.
For example, if you live in a rented house, you will still decorate it carefully as if it were your home.
For example, your clothes were bought by Pin Xixi, but you still keep them neat and tidy when you wear them.
For example, if you eat omelette noodles, you will still cook them casually and then eat them seriously.
Question: Who has good taste?
Answer: It must be a positive, optimistic and spiritual person. If you pay attention to taste, it can also reflect that you are a spiritual person. .
The second type of circle of friends embodies lifestyle
The lifestyle I understand is very simple. Your life is exciting and free. This is natural attraction.
I have a private tutor like this. He is a civil servant himself and has two days off every week, but he never spends a weekend in his own city. He is from Hunan and goes out every Friday with a high-speed rail ticket or air ticket. Every time he goes to a city, he will look for the food in that city and get to know the local girls.
He also takes a lot of photos. He invests all his money in building his own lifestyle instead of spending it on buying gifts for girls.
I think this is very reliable for young people. Many people say that I am under a lot of pressure and I can’t do it. That’s actually fair. This is why you can only have the life you have now. , right.
Third, reflect hard Value circle of friends
This is easy to understand. The current environment is like this. It depends more on whether you have hard value.
For example, I won’t talk much about the consumption of cars and high-end places. Some people will naturally understand it, but don’t envy those who don’t have it, let alone pretend to be fat. The result of pretending is to be like a turtle carrying its shell, living a life that is not light.
Fourth, a circle of friends that embodies love, filial piety and ambition
These qualities are literal, they only play a supporting role. What does it mean?
You cannot attract a girl just by having these qualities!
For example, if your circle of friends are very motivated every day, they all work overtime, or they go to help the old lady live every day. Road, right?Can attract girls.
Otherwise, the most attractive people to women in China should be the national model workers, but in fact they are not.
The truth is that a beautiful girl may not want to take the initiative to marry a model worker, so their role is to assist. Occasionally showing love, filial piety, and ambition are very strong bonuses.
For example, occasionally take photos of you and your pets, or take photos of a stray dog ??on the road to show your love.
Occasionally post something to cook with your mother or celebrate her birthday. This is to show your filial piety.
Occasionally is enough. Remember that without hard value and lifestyle attraction, auxiliary attraction alone is not enough.
Fifth, use your high-value friends to reflect your value
We have all heard the saying, "A straw tied to a cabbage sells for eighty cents a pound. If you tie it to a hairy crab, you can sell it for 80 yuan a pound.”
Your value is determined by how much money you are with. This principle can also be applied to attraction.
Your friends are of high value, which means you are also a high-value person.
For example, if you take a photo with a beautiful girl, be careful not to be too intimate when taking photos with a beautiful girl, which will make others think you are a scumbag. Another example is photos of you partying with a handsome guy or a very attractive friend, which can enhance your attractiveness.
After talking about the three major ways to post on Moments Principles and five major types, I know many boys will not take action even after knowing the method.
Their reasons are many: for example, they don’t have time, for example, no one takes pictures of me. For example, I don’t like this style, I don’t know how to retouch pictures, and I’m afraid what my boss will say.
In short, if you don’t want to change and always want to get something for nothing, then there will be excuses and problems everywhere. This is the self-limitation we set for ourselves.
Let me tell you a story. I used to teach my dad how to play computer, and he always said it was impossible and I couldn’t learn it. Now he can not only check web pages, chat on QQ, and play games without any problems. Why? Because I helped him divide learning to use the computer into very simple steps.
So the same goes for building a circle of friends. When you break it down into steps and make a plan, it is actually very simple. The key is to take the first step.
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Just like the student I mentioned, everyone wants to stay in bed and have a good sleep on weekends, but he knows that there will be no results if he doesn’t do it, so he just buys the ticket and does it.
A sentence I like very muchWords: Thinking is a problem, doing is the answer.
That’s it for creating an attractive circle of friends. I hope you will implement it immediately and reap the results!
I am Xianliang, see you next time~
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