Are you a social phobia or are you pretending to be a social bull? Are you the silent one at the party, or the general talker who stays in your own world?
Have you ever socialized because of low emotional intelligence? Embarrassed and regretful?
Let’s learn how to deal with various social situations with high emotional intelligence.
Don’t be cold when you first meet:
1. Express friendliness with a smile
2. Say the first words to strangers bravely
3. Appropriate address
4. Present yourself as a seeker
5. Be enthusiastic and don’t talk too much
6. Start a conversation with the opposite sex , first of all, give the other person a sense of security
Say what the other person wants to hear:
1. Give the other person more space to talk about themselves
2. Put "I "Change to "TA"
3. Pets or children are good entry points
4. When dating with your girlfriend, you should pay attention to topics of common concern
5. It is best to talk about some relaxed and pleasant topics while eating.
6. Don’t know where to start, talk about small things like a big deal
7. Common ground can make people feel familiar instantly
8. The person you are chatting with is a housewife , the topic should be down-to-earth
Master the chat standards:
1. Use open-ended questions: avoid "multiple choice questions" as much as possible
2. When chatting is awkward, Change the topic in a timely manner
3. Pay attention to the occasion: don’t mention anything if something happens
4. Don’t blast, leave it blank if appropriate
5. When you have a cold, find a topic to help yourself: a joke or a compliment
6. Don’t talk about words
7. No Inquire about other people’s secrets/privacy
Scene-warming skills:
1. Inject your own emotions and mobilize others’ emotions
2. Praise others and get closer to them The psychological distance of others
3. "Learn inferences from one instance": A topic is related to multiple factors 4. Don't "point to the country"
5. It’s also good to tell some jokes
6. The topic went off the rails: “Get back to the point”
7. What you say should be foreshadowing: exaggerate the atmosphere and set up suspense
8. Don’t be a one-man show, remember to interact
Sophisticated chat skills:
1. With women: avoid nagging, complaining and machismo;
2. With children: Have a childlike innocence, "Fairy Tale"
3. Chat appropriately with the leader and try to understand the other person as much as possible; be a decent person
4. A strong person: try not to go against the other person, but Smooth
5. Hesitant people: Be patient and use confidence to gain trust
6. Annoying: Change yourself temporarily, stay polite
7. Topic blocking: be emotional and know why
8. First time group: listen first and then talk
Basic topics for chatting ：
1. Don’t pretend to be empty: talk if you have something to say
2. Find information related to the other party to promote the conversation
3. Understand the other person’s interests and hobbies
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4. Talk about current affairs
5. Talk about your confusion
6. The best candidate for sports: Auntie , people with children, and people walking dogs
7. Use snacks to bring each other closer to chat
8. Use a third party’s speech to get to the point
Ask questions Questions:
1. Arouse the other party's interest
2. Ask specific questions
3. Give the other person a chance to express pride
4. Don’t be condescending
5. Side-by-side: The other person will tell you what they want< /p>
6. Use rhetorical questions skillfully when you are at an impasse
Chat "secret weapon":
1. If you talk too much, you will lose: say three points
2. Suspense in the message: not much to say
3. Surprise: the card is unreasonable
4. Pretend to leak: enough
5. Praise from behind: learn the third method
Express different opinions:
1. First admit and then deny
< p>2. Bow appropriately3. Give face to the other party and compromise with reservations
4. Don’t judge others’ rights and wrongs
5. Be polite when rejecting Distinguish between occasions and objects
6. Stay neutral when the situation is unclear
Social taboos:
1. Don’t ask a woman’s age casually
2. Don’t ask a man’s height casually
< p>3. Ask others about their weight4. Don’t ask about other people’s salaries
5. Don’t pry into other people’s feelings
6. Don’t reveal other people’s personal information Add salt to the scars
7. Don’t care about other people’s rights and wrongs
8. You are not the enemy, don’t attack other people’s weaknesses
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